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  • Mon, June 01, 2015 5:04 PM | Paul Krutak (Administrator)

    As I look out my window, thinking about what to write today, I see how green the lawn is, how full the leaves are on the trees, and I observe all of the flowers that are in bloom. I notice the trees swaying in the breeze, I see squirrels and bunnies chasing one another around and I see and hear the birds.  Spring has sprung and it is time to enjoy all of the wonders that this growing season brings!


    We have been walking in the evenings after supper.  We like to walk to a nearby pond to watch the geese and goslings do their thing.  The other night, we watched the parents help the young ones to find their bedtime snacks in the grass and to get settled in to roost for the night.  We saw some of the goslings huddling up together, others moving away from the huddle and the parents watching all of this activity while remaining vigilant for possible threats.  It was relaxing to watch these families and to notice that they were in tune with one another and were not distracted by electronic gadgets or other interruptions.  They worked together as a team, one parent watching the goslings while the other watched for danger.  They would trade jobs, but always their young were the center of focus.  The young were free from worry as their parents took care of making sure they had food, safety and a place to sleep.


    In today’s world, it is easy to get caught up in all the “busy-ness” of work and life.  Spring is a reminder that life goes on and replenishes itself, even if we are not “busy bees”!  What is the worst thing that could happen if you slowed down for a little while, went outside, took some deep breaths, enjoyed the sunshine and a few of the  miracles that Mother Nature has provided?  Getting in touch with nature is an excellent way to unplug from all of the electronic gadgets and all of the worries and stressors that plague us.


    Go ahead.  Give it a try.  Explore nature with the wonder of a child!  Observe the garden plants as they mature and come up from the ground producing leaves, fruit and vegetables.  Notice the ants that are busy building anthills and carrying food to their colonies.  Notice the tiny bunnies hiding in the grass.  Listen to the birds singing and watch them flying back to their nests with worms in their mouths to feed their young.  You may even observe some flying lessons!  Notice how quickly the plants and young animals grow.  If we don’t slow down, we miss these changes.


    The same is true in our own lives and with our own families.  When was the last time you slowed down to observe your family or friends?  What about observing yourself and the changes you have undergone?  How will you be able to fully appreciate your metamorphosis if you never slow down to observe the stages of change in your life?


    I challenge and encourage you to take time out this month to enjoy nature, breathe, relax and observe the changes in your life.  Spring has sprung and it only comes once a year!  Take this opportunity to feel alive and connected to our world and the universe!  You may walk away with some “spring” in your step!


  • Fri, May 01, 2015 3:29 PM | Deleted user

    May is the month of graduation ceremonies from kindergarten, to high school and college.  These graduation ceremonies mark the end of one stage of life and the beginning of the next stage.  This is an exciting time in our lives – a time of hope, a time of celebration and a time to remember how far we have come.

    As we come in to this season of celebrations and new beginnings, consider the stage of your life that you are leaving behind or graduating from, and the next stage you are graduating toward.  My son is graduating from high school and will be moving on to the next stage of his life, college.  As his parent, his graduation means it is a graduation for me, too.  I get to graduate from being “the mom” with all of the responsibilities of raising a child, from volunteering to help at all of his school activities to managing his appointments and schedule.  I am graduating toward more time to focus on things that I want to do!  I have a number of projects that I am looking forward to working on and completing (scrapbooking; organizing, copying and labeling home movies; genealogy, etc.).  I am looking forward to scheduling more time for exercise, fun and friends.  I will spend more time reading and dating my husband. I am excited about graduating to the next stage of my life!

    What are you looking forward to in your next stage?  What do you need to celebrate about the stage you are leaving behind?  Take time to remember the good things about the stage you are graduating from and celebrate all that you have accomplished in that stage of your life.  Have a “graduation party” for yourself!  Invite people in your life who love you, support you and encourage you.  Happy Graduation!

  • Tue, March 31, 2015 11:01 PM | Deleted user

     How many times have you heard yourself say, “I know I shouldn’t be doing this, but . . .” followed with an excuse for the bad choice you are about to make?  Everybody has done this, but those who are fooling themselves keep doing it instead of learning from it and moving on.

    “We are creatures of habit” is a saying that has been around for a long time.  The big question is “are you a creature of good habits or bad habits?”  If you are a creature of bad habits, maybe it’s time to take a look at how you have been fooling yourself by telling yourself things like “it’s not so bad” or “I could be doing worse things.”  What do you really, really want in your life?  Are the choices you are making helping you to reach your goals or hindering you?  What would happen if you stopped trying to fool yourself and took a realistic look at the choices you are making?  How would your life change?

    Take a minute to think of one are area of your life in which you have been “fooling yourself”.  Is it the fact that you need to take better care of your health by losing weight, exercising regularly or need to schedule a doctor’s appointment?  Is it in the area of finances where you continue to overspend, “undersave” and live paycheck to paycheck?  Is it in the area of relationships where you have neglected to spend time with the people who mean the most to you?  What about focusing on your business?  Are you setting and achieving goals to grow your business or are you just sitting back and letting whatever happens make the decision for you?

    If you aren’t happy with the way things are going in your life, it’s time to stop fooling yourself!  Take an honest look at what you are doing to sabotage yourself and make the change!  It’s time to create the life you want!  No fooling!!

      Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  Balanced Life offers individual life coaching, small group coaching, speaking and seminars on topics such as:  time management, organizational skills, maintaining energy & eliminating drains, achieving balance, self-care, and overcoming procrastination.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402) 499-5547.  She is writing a book on creating a balanced life and will be offering workshops on this topic, soon.  Check the website or call for more information.

  • Wed, March 04, 2015 12:10 PM | Deleted user

     I am often asked whether or not there really is such a thing as a “balanced life”.  The answer is “yes”!  Keep in mind that everybody’s balance is a little different, but the essentials are the same. 

    Creating a balanced life is like creating a balanced meal.  You have to have a little bit of a variety of different areas in your life to create balance.  If you divide your life into different categories, you may come up with areas such as:  family/relationships, work/school, finances, health/self-care, social/fun and spiritual/personal growth/education.  When you have too much of one area (such as work) on your “plate”, there is limited space for other areas that you need.  When you skip any area, just as with diet, you feel the difference and crave what you are missing.

    When you realize what you are craving (such as fun), it’s time to put some of that area back into your life (or onto your plate).  Look at the different areas of your life and notice which areas you “fill your plate” with and give yourself a smaller portion in that area.  We may tend to look at things that we really enjoy as “dessert” so we deprive ourselves of the “treat” and force ourselves to take more of the “healthy” stuff.

    We also need to look at our “plates” and see if there is anything that has “spoiled”.  It may have “tasted good” in the past, but it’s been on the plate too long and has lost any flavor and nutrients.  It’s time to dump it to create more room for other things that will fill you up and give you energy!  Make a list of things that drain your energy at work and at home and decide whether or not you want to keep them on your plate, dump them, or delegate them to others.

    Now look at your plate and notice which areas give you more energy and enhance your life.  You want to take “extra helpings” of these!  Once you dump some of the drains, you’ll have more room for the areas that give you back that balance and help you feel healthier and more content!  Bon Appetit!

      Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  Balanced Life offers individual life coaching, small group coaching, speaking and seminars on topics such as:  time management, organizational skills, maintaining energy & eliminating drains, achieving balance, self-care, and overcoming procrastination.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402) 499-5547.  She is writing a book on creating a balanced life and will be offering workshops on this topic, soon.  Check the website or call for more information.

  • Tue, February 03, 2015 11:42 PM | Deleted user

    In February, we tend to focus on the theme of love.  We conjure up romantic ideas of a perfect relationship.  What if the perfect relationship is not one we have with somebody else, but rather is the one we have with ourselves?

    How many of us have ever been told to “Love Yourself”?  It seems to go against everything we are taught about loving and helping others.  We are told that if we take care of ourselves first, we are being “selfish”.  What if this is not true?  What if the truth is that the most important thing you can do is to love and take care of yourself first?  If we don’t take care of ourselves first, we have nothing left to give others!  I like to remind people who have a faith background that even Jesus taught “Love your neighbor as yourself.”  This means you must love yourself first, then you can love your neighbor!  If you have ever flown on an airplane, the flight attendants teach the passengers to put the oxygen on themselves first, then help others (including children).  How often are we told that we need to put others, especially our children, first?  How can we help them if we don’t give ourselves oxygen first?

    We need to give ourselves permission to love ourselves, regardless of what others tell us.  The most important and longest relationship is the one you have with yourself.  It is vital to learn how to treat yourself with love, kindness, dignity and respect.  You can’t be ready for a healthy relationship with another person until you create a healthy relationship with yourself.

    So how do you create a healthy relationship with yourself?    Just as you spend time getting to know another person, you need to spend time getting to know yourself.  You need to schedule dates with yourself – time you set aside as sacred and don’t give up for something else.  You can use this time to do an activity that you love to do but don’t normally take the time out of your busy schedule to do.  Some of us have spent so much time doing things for others that it can be difficult to come up with an idea of something to do with yourself so here a few ideas to get you thinking:  take a bath with your favorite Epsom salts and candles, read a book just for fun, go to an art museum or art show, window shop for art or craft supplies (and if you have a hobby or project you haven’t done for awhile, give yourself permission to buy an item to get you back to that project or hobby), go for a walk in a park or around your neighborhood, or keep a journal where you ask yourself questions and answer them honestly to get to know more about yourself.

    Next, stop being mean to yourself!  This means to stop the negative self-talk, the self criticism, beating yourself up in your head for your mistakes, for not being perfect, etc.  Treat yourself like you would your best friend – with kindness, understanding, love and respect.  Treat yourself the way you would like others to treat you.  When you treat yourself with dignity and respect, you attract relationships with others who treat you with the same dignity and respect.

    Finally, listen to yourself.  Pay attention to how you feel and respect it.  Don’t force yourself to do things you don’t really want to do.  Ask yourself how you would feel in whatever situation you are trying to sort out, then listen to your body giving you the messages about how you really feel.  For example, if you feel sick in the pit of your stomach when you imagine yourself going to that event with those people, respect those feelings and give yourself permission to do something else that you really enjoy.

    In this month of love, take the time to love yourself.  You will be glad you did.

      Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402) 499-5547.  She is offering a “Love Yourself Workshop” in February.  Check the website or call for more information.

  • Fri, January 02, 2015 4:11 PM | Deleted user

    Here it is – the New Year!  What this means for many of us is that it is time for New Year’s Resolutions.  This can also mean it is time to set oneself up for failure.  So should we even bother with Resolutions if we are going to fail and give up within 6 months anyway?  If we do choose to make them, how can we stick with them so we succeed?

    I have recently been interviewed by 2 reporters for Channels 10/11 on this topic of interest to so many so I decided to pass along the information I shared with them in this blog.

    The fact is that there is nothing special about January 1 as far as setting goals and being successful.  People tend to put a lot of stock in the idea of trying something new at the beginning of a new year, but the truth is that you can set a goal and make a plan for success at any moment in time and on any day of the year.  You just have to change your mindset – move away from the idea of “New Year’s Resolutions” and move toward the idea of setting achievable, reasonable goals for yourself.

    Another aspect to consider is the answer to the question, “What’s in it for me?”  In other words, “why do it?”  If there is no pay-off or emotional tie-in, we aren’t likely to follow through, which leads to failure and the cycle repeating itself.  We don’t do things unless we get something out of it (even things that we know are not good for us because if we look deeper, we will discover what the pay-off is).  If you set goals to please somebody else or because you think you “should” do it, you don’t have the emotional connection to it to motivate yourself with following through.  I ask my clients where they are on a scale of 1-10 as far as willingness to follow through on a goal and if they are anywhere below an 8, I tell them to hold off on it until their willingness moves to an 8 or above because they are not ready to do what it takes to make the change, yet.  This doesn’t mean to give up, but to see themselves in a stage of pre-contemplation or contemplation in order to get their brains ready to move them into action.  Once they hit an 8 or above, they are more likely to stick with it and achieve their goal.

    Many people fail because they don’t put it in writing.  Research shows that those who write down their goals are more likely to achieve them than those who don’t put them in writing.  You need to be specific and create contingency plans for each goal to help you to stay on track when something comes up that may interfere with your plan.  For example, years ago I discovered that I needed to have Plans A,B and C for my exercise goals.  Plan A was to walk 4 miles in the neighborhood first thing in the morning.  Plan B took into account cold weather whereby I would move indoors to walk in a rec center or gym.  Plan C was based upon considering the road conditions when it was impossible to get out of our cul-de-sac.  In this case, I would go to my basement and plug in a DVD or use the Wii Fit Plus.  (I also continue to use Plan C when I don’t have enough time to make it to the gym for water aerobics class at the scheduled time.)  By setting up contingency plans, I took away my excuses and knew that regardless of the weather or the road conditions, I was going to get my exercise in every day.  I also kept my exercise clothes near my bed so I wouldn’t be tempted to talk myself out of getting up and going.  I would awake and begin putting them on before I could talk myself into staying in bed.  This is part of creating a plan for success by setting up your environment for success. 

    When you do slip up, don’t let it stop you from getting back on track.  Remind yourself of the reasons for your goal and look at how far you have come!  Meeting your goals 2/3 of the time is 2/3 better than before!  Recover quicker after each set-back realizing that nobody is perfect.  Look for the pay-off that caused the detour and find a different way to get the feeling you are looking for – something that keeps you on track.

    Find an accountability partner.  This may be a friend, an acquaintance who has a similar goal, or a life coach, like me who will help you to stay on track.  When we hold ourselves accountable through another person, we are more likely to succeed.  There are various apps available to help you to keep track of your goals (for example diet and exercise) which also keep you accountable and mindful of the choices you are making.

    Include fun in your goals!  Keep them small and have some fun with them.  According to the January 2015 issue of the “O” Magazine, you should consider these habits:  Laugh, read, daydream and connect with others to reduce stress, be more inventive and to live longer.

    The bottom line is there is no better time to start your path to achieving your goals than right now, regardless of the date on the calendar!  Know yourself and what you really want.  Create a specific plan to reach those goals, put it in writing and find an accountability partner.  When you slip up, be gentle with yourself, look at your success so far and get back on track.  Make 2015 the year you Dream, Plan and Achieve!

      Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402) 499-5547.  She is offering 2 “Dream, Plan, Achieve in 2015” Workshops and one Small Group in January.  Check the website or call for more information.

  • Mon, December 01, 2014 8:07 PM | Deleted user

    In preparing for this blog, I decided to share an article from my website.  I hope you find it useful and that it helps to make your holidays more enjoyable.  Happy Holidays!

    This is the time of year that many people feel their anxiety levels rise due to all of the expectations that the holiday season brings.  Here are some tips to help you get through the holiday season.

    Simple Solutions for a (Nearly) Stress-free Holiday Season

    1.    Set aside unrealistic expectations.

    a. Stop seeking perfection, set realistic expectations.

     

           2. Invest Time vs. Money with your loved ones!

                a. Spend within your means!

         

         3. Let go of guilt about pleasing others

                a. Stay calm

     b. Set limits/boundaries (say “no”)

    c. Please yourself 1st!

                d. Limit time in stressful situations

    e. Breathe

        

         4. Take good care of yourself!!

    ·         a. Do something every day that is just for your enjoyment

    b. Eat healthy

    c. Exercise

    d. Talk with friends

    e. Get enough sleep

     

         5.  Make a Plan

    a. Stop multi-tasking and ask for help

    b. Simplify your schedule

                c. Decide what you can eliminate from your “To Do” list

    d. Focus on what is most important

    e. Slow down & choose 3 things you want to accomplish each day

         6. Laugh a lot!

         7. Remember the reasons for the holidays

    (Why are you Thankful?  The meaning of Christmas, New Year=New Start)

         8. Live in the Moment!!

     

    Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402)499-5547.

  • Sun, November 02, 2014 10:26 PM | Deleted user

    Fall . . . what a beautiful time of the year!  The beautiful fall colors, the cool crisp air, bonfires, S’mores, evening walks, etc.  Aaahhhh… then come the holidays.  For many people, the “aaahhhh” becomes “AARGH”!  Just the thought of the holiday season is enough to cause many people to want to “walk the plank”.  Most people get through Halloween okay, but when November rolls around, the thought of “the holidays” is enough to cause them to crawl back under the covers.

    This month is all about giving thanks.  It is too easy to forget about all the wonderful things and people in our lives when we are stressed.  What would happen if you took time to make a list?  This list could be done in many different ways, but the reasons behind it are all the same – to take a step back and look at life through a lens of gratitude.  Here are some ideas to get you started.

    1.       List 10 or more people that you are grateful to have in your life.  Include reasons for choosing each person.  How do they enhance your life?  What would your life be like without them?2.       List 10 things or events you are grateful for that have occurred in your life.  They may be current or they may be from your past.  How would your life be different had these things not happened?3.       List 10 things you are grateful for each day.  These things could be things that occur(red) that day or could be something more general.  They could be as simple as the person who held the door for you or the cashier at the grocery store being friendly.  The most challenging part of this activity is to come up with new things each day with no repeats from previous lists.  We get so busy with life that we often forget to notice the little kindnesses, the sounds and sights of nature, and the other “little” things that we experience every day.  This is an exercise in paying attention and taking note of the here and now.  (When I do this activity with clients, I call it “The List of 5 and 5” and this is the first part.  We only do 5 to start with because it is less daunting.)4.       List 10 things you like about yourself each day.  (This is the 2nd part of the 5 & 5 List.)  As in the list above, this is more challenging because no repeats are allowed.  People usually start this list with simple things such as “I like my eyes” or “I like the way I look in this shirt”, but as they write this list each day, the list progresses to a deeper level.  You will be amazed at what you learn about yourself!!  When you are focusing on the positives in yourself, it becomes easier to focus on the positives in others.

    As you start writing these lists, you will gain some distance from the situations that cause you stress. You may “remove your eye patch, Matey” and begin to see the holidays from a new lens.  How about enjoying the treasure of Thanksgiving by truly giving thanks?  Aaahhhh . . .

     

    Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402)499-5547.

  • Wed, October 01, 2014 7:36 PM | Deleted user

    Do you remember being scared of monsters under your bed a when you were a child?  What did your parents do to alleviate your fears?  Did they look under the bed, behind the dresser and in the closet?  Did they ask you to help them look or did they do it for you?  Did they give you control of the situation with some “Monster Spray” or a flashlight so you could scare away the monsters if they came back?  Did they tell you to call for them if you got scared, again?  Many children experience fear, especially in the dark and at bedtime.  Disney Studios realized this theme and created the movie “Monsters, Inc.” to help explain the situation so children would see that it is just a job the monsters do but that they aren’t really scary all the time.  It’s just an act.

    What are the “monsters” in your life today?  What scares you?  Do you face your monsters armed with “Monster Spray”?  Or do you hide under the covers hoping they’ll go away?  At various points throughout our lives, we must recognize our monsters and decide how we are going to deal with them.  If we don’t decide how we are going to deal with them, they will surely deal with us.  How much control do you want over your fears?  Hiding from them only allows them to linger, waiting for the opportunity to pounce on you, taking your breath away and making your heart race.  The only way to effectively deal with them is to pull back the covers, face them and take control of the situation with your Monster Spray!

    So what is the magic formula in monster spray, you may be wondering?  How does it work?  Although you will find variations in the recipe, there are some basic ingredients.  The first ingredient is courage.  Without courage, how can we ever face our monsters?  Dig deep, it’s there, just as it was with the “Cowardly Lion” in the Wizard of Oz.  He had to act tough until he realized he had the courage all along.

    The second ingredient is faith, knowing that everything will work out as it is supposed to.  It may not be in your time or in the way in which you envision it to work out, but it will work out and you will go on.

    The third ingredient is strength.  You must believe in your strength and your ability to handle challenges.  After all, you have been handling challenges your whole life and here you are!  If you weren’t strong enough, you would have been defeated long before now and the monsters would have eaten you.

    The fourth ingredient is wisdom.  Listen to your wise self which will direct you toward a monster-free zone.  Your life has been a series of experiences which have taught you about monsters and how to handle them.  Trust your instincts to guide you.

    Finally, remember the most important ingredient is love.  Love yourself enough to face your monsters so you can move on with your life and your goals.  Love is the antidote to fear.  It also doesn’t hurt to learn to love your monsters for they are your teachers and you can learn much from them.  They may even end up being your friends, like Mike and Sully.  Every time you face one, you become stronger, wiser, more courageous, and stronger in your faith that it will all work out. Then you become living proof that this is so.

    In this season of scary monsters, choose to face them armed with your Monster Spray and a hearty laugh.  Nothing scares monsters more than laughter.

    Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402)499-5547.


  • Sun, September 07, 2014 5:50 PM | Deleted user

    I have been reading the book, Time Management from the Inside Out by Julie Morgenstern, again.  (Actually I have been listening to the audio book as I drive.)  She offers a number of ideas to help people organize their time just as she helped people organize their clutter in her book, Organization from the Inside Out.  I don’t have enough room in this article to recap the entire book, but I can give you some of the basics that I found useful.

    Morgenstern compares time to space to help people realize how similar the two are.  She used the example of a closet which has limited space and if overfilled, becomes disorganized, haphazard and inefficient in its use of organizing tools.  The same is true of a cluttered or overfilled schedule:  you have a limited amount of time, which gets crammed with more tasks than time, jammed into any available time slot in no particular order, which makes it difficult for you to see what you have to do and causes inefficient use of time management tools.  How many of us don’t see a schedule as a container with limited space into which we must fit a certain number of tasks?  She says that when we start seeing our time as having borders, just as space does, we will become more realistic about what we can accomplish and more motivated to master time management tools and techniques.

    She emphasizes the importance of discovering your “likes and dislikes, natural habits, needs, and desires.  These become the foundation of your time management system.” She offers ideas to help you accurately diagnose your time management problems so you can work on the solution.  Then she has you look at your “big picture goals” so you can see how your daily tasks fit in with these goals.  If you are having difficulty defining your goals, she helps you to zero in on one to achieve first.  You can add others later. 

    She recommends writing down your goals as this has been studied and has been found to be one of the best predictors of success in achieving goals.  Review your goals often to increase your likelihood of success.  With each big picture goal, specifically list activities to do over the next year or two that will get you to your goal.  Revise your activity list every year, even if some of your goals stay the same.  Your circumstances will change so you will need to adjust your specific activity list to match.

    One of the most useful tools Morgenstern offers is a “Time Map” which is “a visual diagram of your daily, weekly and monthly schedule” which helps you to achieve your ideal balance.  I haven’t done this activity for a few years so I have created my template and have begun the process of mapping out my daily activities for the next 1-2 weeks so I know exactly where my time is going.  I will label the activities by category so I can see if I am spending my time in the areas that are most important to me or not.  I can also see how much time I am spending on activities that could be reduced, eliminated or delegated.  After I evaluate how I am currently spending my time, I will block out my schedule to accommodate all areas of my life to make sure I am keeping the balance that is right for me.  Then I can fill in the blocks with the activities that will help me to achieve my goals, both short term and long term.  I will re-evaluate it in a couple of weeks, tweak it and do it again.   I have done this activity in the past and have found it extremely useful. 

    She goes on to discuss different types of planners and how to determine which one might suit you best.  Then she goes through explaining how the SPACE formula for organization can be used for time management.  On page 138 she explains the 5 step formula for organizing your daily to-do’s:

    •  “Sort potential tasks by category
    • Purge whatever tasks you can
    • Assign a Home to tasks you have decided to do
    • Containerize tasks to keep them within the time allotted
    • Equalize - refine, maintain, and adapt your schedule”

    If you would like more details, I recommend you check out Julie Morgenstern’s book where she walks you through step by step plans, examples and explanations.  It is a useful tool, if you make the time for it.

    Kolleen Meyer-Krikac, owner of Balanced Life and Wilshire Business Suites, located in Lincoln, NE is a certified life coach and professional counselor in private practice.  She facilitates workshops, is a public speaker and enjoys helping people to “Dream, Plan, Achieve” the life they have always wanted.  You can reach Kolleen through her website, Balanced Life (www.balanced-life.us), Linked In, Facebook or by calling her at (402)499-5547.


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